We live in a time when people are enslaved by identity. They are either clinging fervently to an identity or frantically searching for one, believing that somewhere out there an identity exists that will answer all their needs and fulfill all aspects of their life. A healthy relationship with identity starts with knowing there is no such thing as a perfect identity. The field of identity is the field of imperfection.
Fulfillment is a state of physiology that lies beyond the grasp of identity. Religions talk about it. All of humanity longs for it. But very few understand it.
Essential to a healthy life is a healthy relationship with identity. You function through identity, but are not lost to it. As a great saint once said:
The trick is to have the boat in the water, but not have the water in the boat.