Generally “management” is thought of as a business term. People manage companies. In reality, management is everything, and it starts with the self. Do you want to be happy? Learn to manage yourself. Manage your behavior. Be attentive to how you interact with people.
My children are very much concerned about the grades they get in school. I encourage that, but I also have told them that how they manage their relationship with other people will determine the success of their lives far more than anything else, including the grades they get in school.
So, what is the key to managing your relationship with other people?
First and foremost, learn to manage yourself. All too often, people look outside themselves for what is wrong with the world. They long for a place free of people who behave improperly. That’s called delusional. It’s not about getting rid of everybody that bothers you. It’s about managing them. How do you manage your relationship with such people? And, needless to say, you can’t possibly manage your relationship with other people properly if you cannot manage yourself.
Everything in life is about management. Take a little time to view every single area of your life as a management issue. At the same time, you must understand that Nature manages existence. There is a natural-ness to it. So, properly managing yourself and others is not a computerized science. It’s an art that allows everything to breathe.
To manage is to understand, and then act accordingly.
I spent so many years looking not outside for what was wrong but inside for what was wrong with me. Much of that time was heard refining, toning down and perfecting to fit somebody else’s model, thereby removing my own naturalness and exuberance for life. Managing my life in that way made me very ill. There are poison sumacs this world; beautiful plant I think. Maybe I, like them am here to create just enough irritation to effect a shift and create healing. Powerful medicine. And then again, I could also be that grain of sand that becomes a pearl. Happiness is in the perspective.
Many have asked me through the years, how do I deal with the stress of so many employees? My answer has always been..I work on myself. I discovered that I did not have to stress..it never helps my situation. I thought I knew how important it was to manage ones well being and reactions in life however I realize now that I was only scratching the surface. My various classes have served me well through the years and I now see them as steps on my walk to having both my feet in one boat. Brahmarshi, your guidance makes all things more clear.
Thank you for so many confirmations of thought..and the endless amount of new ones to discern.
Using the principles I’ve learned from Brahmarshi, my management style has improved immeasurably. Just like Brahmarshi’s teachings revolutionized psychotherapy, I believe the same could be said for management. Want to be an effective manager who is well-respected and gets results? Join the school and learn from Brahmarshi. Today’s blog is one more of those lessons- a good manager starts with managing him/her self… properly.
Beautiful comments! And perhaps the most important part of the blog is the last part. You need to have a management style that is born of your own true nature. At the same time, it is valuable to view your relationship with yourself and others from a management perspective. As I often say, it is not about trying to turn an apple into an orange. Understand your nature. Understand the nature of others. Then manage accordingly. It is as if you pay attention to nature and allow it to organize things. You facilitate the process by observing nature [yours and others] and acting/managing accordingly.
Dearest Brahmarshi,
I feel as though I have no desire to manage anything or anyone other than myself. “Oh God, I could be bounded in a nutshell and count myself a king of infinite space, were it not that I have bad dreams…” This is of course absurd. The exact opposite is true. I want to manage not only myself, but the world at large. I come from a long line of obsessive compulsive control maniacs. My relationship with what I see wrong with the world is absolute pure distilled fury. It must be purged! If that is in harmony with Nature, then by all means let it be so! I want my children to grow up in a better world. If it were within my power to obliterate all that is obstructing our new age of Enlightenment, I would do so in an instant! No matter what the cost! I know Nature organizes best, and my greatest wish is that Nature will decree the time is imminent! That the age of Enlightenment will be ushered in with swift, and dare I say, violent action! Every moment of delay is an agonizing torture to my soul. I am a perfectionist in a world of imperfection, which I am seemingly powerless to change. If we are indeed in for another 400 years of transition, then I feel deeply and wholeheartedly that I simply do not belong here. This must be some mistake. The joke is I know there are no mistakes…
“The time is out of joint. O cursèd spite,
That ever I was born to set it right…”
I know I must reconcile this relationship before it tears me apart…
Thank God for your gentile and loving guidance through this barbaric time.
Jai Guru Dev!
Geoff,
Everything you or anyone does is an act of management… it is how they manage their life. The comment you wrote is a management act. Everything anyone does is a management act. Why? Because it has an influence, an effect on all around them. All I am saying is to do your best to manage as wisely and well as you can. But manage you will… So why not be attentive to how you are doing it. Just do your best. That is all anyone can ask. Do your best and then when you put your head on your pillow at night, rest with the satisfaction of knowing that you did the best you could. That is enough. Do not ask more of yourself. It is all fine. I know you well enough to know that you are doing your best.
Thanks to Brahmarshi’s “school of management” I’ve come to refer to my business as a “reflective organization” – one where its members, particularly its managers, are required to look within to understand themselves in order to accomplish goals which are largely based on helping others do the same. Challenging, humane, fulfilling and forward moving. On and on we go, around and around, and gently upward to the elusive peak of perfection. With our sites set on perfection we enjoy much excellence along the path.
Jai Brahmarshi!
I just saw this new Quantum Physics discovery.
http://americankabuki.blogspot.com/2013/09/a-jewel-at-heart-of-quantum-physics.html
“Physicists have discovered a jewel-like geometric object that dramatically simplifies calculations of particle interactions and challenges the notion that space and time are fundamental components of reality.”
So then extrapolating; People interactions ,or management, inside a sacred shape would flow more naturally than management in a incoherent space. Correct Geometry simplifies, more simple = less time. Then it follows that perfect divine alignment creates instant manifestation.
A seed placed under a pyramid germinates faster and grows stronger. Is there a limit any more? Or are we the limitation or shadow in the perfect light? Thanks for Blogging always a treat. John