Some situations are simply difficult and would result in misery for most anyone.
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However, if you and your loved ones have reasonable health, sufficient food, and a place to sleep at night, and misery still seems to follow you around, it is likely that something else is going on.
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Think of a piece of folded, (creased) paper. Unfold that paper and then push on it. The paper will fold on that same crease every time.
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Your psycho-physiology is the same. Your psyche is primarily based upon the physiology of your nervous system. If there is a fatigue in some aspect of your nervous system that relates to your psyche, it will result in a recurring ‘fold in your paper,’ so to speak – causing a specific negative emotion to recur. It may be misery or anger or something else.
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This sort of fatigue is deeply trenched in the physiology. Sleep alone rarely heals it. Meditation is your best tool. The best meditation for this (as well as for evolution toward enlightenment) is taught for free.
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There is another very important tool you can use. Learn to not indulge the negative emotion. Find a way out! That can involve by simply choosing to think another way in the moment.
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For example, the other day I was running late for a ceremony and could not find the proper clothes to wear. Searching every drawer and closet, as soon as I felt myself getting frustrated, I decided to think another way. “It is okay.” I told myself. “I can just wear something else.” I did just that and all was fine. Remember: What you put your attention on grows stronger.
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There is an appropriate time to explore a negative emotion to attempt to free it up. You can feel the feeling and ask where it came from in childhood, etc. This can be of real value. However, people who get on to that approach often over do it.
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We have all seen balloons that inflate to become a cat or heart shape or any number of other shapes. When there is not sufficient air in the balloon, it is wrinkled and the shape is distorted. Your physiology is like a balloon. It must be filled with energy and consciousness for you to be happy. It is just that simple.
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I have just summarized the tools you need to do this. Now it is up to you.
it is very much well said, meditate twice a day is the must. I would think it is the most important tool every student should follow, actually it is habit forming thing, chicken and egg thing. it is really up to that individual to do it and taste the benefit by it self. Meditation will do wonders. If you do not try it , you never know. In our healing center in LA. Many get healed of many different kind of mental or physical issues. such as stomach cancer stage 4, colon cancer get to lung, female organ cancer, some of allergy problem, immune-deficiency problem, Lopus, RA, hay favor, kidney problem , twice liver cancer, relationship problem, teen age problem , depression etc. it all can be resolved if they do meditation, self exploration, and join the group meditation ( retreat) regularly. of course, go to Bramarshi’s Surya program, the force of group conscience will carry you through easy.
Once again I am fascinated by the way the knowledge works into my consciousness and understanding. I can read or listen to lectures and gain an intellectual idea of what is being said. Then a particular phrase or idea resonates so clearly, and helps me so much. The idea that instead of becoming frustrated or thinking in a negative way, to simply choose to think of something else… So basic and obvious, and of great significance to me. I am grateful for the opportunity to learn from you, Brahmarshi.