With Saturn and Rahu converging on one another this month, conflicts are on the rise. So it is a good time to take a step back, take a breath, and reflect on any conflicts in your life.
Conflict between friends and associates almost always boils down to one thing: fatigue. Situations arise when it just seems to take too much energy, too much effort, to completely explain your position in a sincere, constructive and open manner. As a result, you shoot out half-baked comments or reactions that hurt others. Ironically, to deal with the damage that is done usually requires many multiples of the energy that would have been required to handle it properly in the first place.
In those cases a simple, “Hey, I am sorry this conflict happened. I would very much like us to get past this.” is usually all that it takes to open the door to healing. Yet most often the amount of energy spent to get to that point is, again, multiples of what would have been required to handle the situation properly in the first place.
People usually really do understand more than they are given credit for. Taking the high road with such a simple offering means a great deal, gains the respect of others, and sends a noble message. If they can verbally acknowledge it or not, they will hear it, appreciate it and respect you for it.
Try it out. You long to be great. Such greatness is easier than you may think.
This is so true, and helpful, and relevant! Thank you for repeatedly teaching on conflict. This topic seems to be a major frontline for healing our current world… Yet it is so easily overlooked because it is right under our noses. It is so much “safer” to have an enemy far away, and we often project our obstacles outward. Yet in looking at the conflicts and (interpersonal) tensions in my life, then looking deeper into them, how often do I find that I am getting in my own way? It is so much easier to focus on what is happening outside of me or on what someone else is doing that I don’t like. It is so much harder to see how the ways that I automatically and even internally react only make the problems bigger. In the moment, I only feel MY intentions and desires; yet only “see” the impact of others’ actions. It takes more time and reflection for me to feel others’ intentions and desires, and to see the impact of my own actions. Then to loosen my grip on my “position” in the argument or dynamic (or loosen the grip my stance has on ME)… Whew. This is a major area of learning in my life right now. Thank you for the attention you bring to the quality of our relationships–with people, and with everything. It brings so much more grace and peace into my life. Slowly, slowly, surely.
Definitely feel the convergence of these two planets. Coupled with packing, selling, moving and staring building, the test is given. Love the 2nd response rule in this situation… and meditation.
Jai Siva Sankara
And remember the fatigue we refer to here is deep seated in the physiology. It is not released by a simple good nights sleep. Sleep clears more superficial fatigue. Deep rest to the nervous system releases those stresses born of deep seated fatigue. PROPER meditition provides that deeper rest and is your most powerful tool. Learning to deal with the situations wisely, a healthy second response, etc. are very important tools that you can employ along the way.
Guests at Mount Soma practice many forms of meditation. Few people, however, practice a meditation that frees of physiology of deep fatigue. When you finally become enlightened, you will realize how ridiculously physiological it is… simply a matter of freedom from deep rooted fatigue. Fatigue allows samskaras [false impressions] to take hold. Deep rest releases them. It is just that simple, though the web it weaves is oh so complex.
Your comment stating that “when you finally become enlightened, you will realize how ridiculously physiological it is,” definitely rang a bell for me. Do you mean that to be enlightened you are “just” aligning your physiology with the vibration of your true nature which is an energetic being free from distortions and energetically synchronized with the oneness of life?
Looking forward to coming home, to rest.