The small individual self, by its very nature, is polarizing. It is important to be devoted to the self. However, the self must grow to become the greater Universal Self. To the small self, as the process occurs, it can feel like an abandonment or loss of control. It turns out to be emancipation.
You want to be happy? You want to be fulfilled? Then move beyond the small you. Some call this loss of ego. That is actually not correct. It is really the evolution of ego to become cosmic Ego… One with the Totality.
Oftentimes, the problem with psychotherapy is that its goal becomes to strengthen the small self. There is no fulfillment there. Evolution means integration of the bounded with the unbounded… not the strengthening of the bounded.
Commit to the unbounded… become free.
Asking the small self to stay positive is like insisting the little remain little, stay attached to its littleness, but become big. When a child grows up, toys just naturally lose their charm. True positivity only comes about when one outgrows identity with the small self.
Integration means acting through the small self, but not being lost to the smallness of the small self. People want their small self to be happy. That is not possible. Happiness occurs as one awakens to the True Self. Pleasure, happiness, fulfillment, joy, etc. – all these things must take on a new meaning before you can have them.
You do not become the Sun by holding it at bay and trying to mimic it from afar. That is simply another form of denial… “Don’t Even kNow I Am Lying”.
To be happy, become big. Which is to say, lose your self to your God. There is a Cosmic Divine Flow… join it. However, that is not attained through attitude. It is the cultivation of a state of consciousness – a state of physiology.
Proper meditation is your best tool. Humble reflection upon these words, which are designed to free you, is also essential. If the reflection is not humble, the meaning is lost as the words are assimilated in the context of the listener’s belief system. They cease to be what they were.
Spiritual teachings are not true spiritual teachings if they just give you a belief system to cling to. They must be designed to free you of your belief systems. Thereby, you awaken to the Cosmic Flow, which is in fact Your Own True Nature. See?